Using heartbreak as motivation

After all, experience is everything. I want you to remember that you are training to choose a partner with whom you can spend decades of life together by having several romantic experiences and studying the opposite sex.

In particular, among religious people, there are those who emphasize the concept of the 'red thread of fate' too much, thinking, 'There is only one red thread. If this thread breaks, my life is over.'

However, please do not think that way. You are neither a Buddha nor a god, so you should not have the power to discern the red thread. It is just a belief you have created.

In reality, there are much more intricate mechanisms at play, so I hope you do not put too much pressure on yourself.

(From 'The Laws of Life' open_in_new)

As a specific issue, there is the question of 'what happens if you mistakenly marry someone you did not promise to marry,' and that does happen.

It may not always be a perfect match.

For example, there was the Pacific War several decades ago, during which many men died.

As a result, there was a situation where 'there are many more women than men.'

But did all young women plan to remain single? Not at all.

After all, there are many cases where someone thought, 'If possible, I want to be with this person,' only to have their partner die in the war.

In such cases, what happens is that people often attract those with whom they had some connection in past lives.

When being reborn in the same era, it is common to not just come out with one person, but rather to come out in a group with people who lived in similar times in past lives.

The bond of marriage also has a best combination, such as 'It is best for person A to marry person B,' but there are several stages and backups.

'If this person doesn't work out, then this person. If this person is taken first, then this person,' so everyone has two or three connections as backups.

Recently, there are many cases of being taken away, so both parties tend to have backups, thinking, 'Perhaps I should have a backup.'

Since both have backups, it has become very difficult to form connections.

In the past, many relationships have been formed over several reincarnations, but there are also connections that arise in this lifetime.

Therefore, while there are concepts like karma and connections, being too caught up in fatalism is also a problem.

I believe it is best to think that the people you happen to encounter have some connection and to build a good life.

(From 'Coffee Break' open_in_new)

Currently, the average age for first-time marriages is nearly 30 for men and around 28 for women, and even in their 30s and 40s, many are still single and looking for a partner. Considering this, it seems that among those already married, very few have married their first love.

For both men and women, the actual marriage age has passed more than 10 years since the time they could have married their first love, so very few will marry that person.

The fact that 'the marriage partner is not the first love' implies that there was a failed romance in the past.

Some may have had no interest in women at all until after turning 30, when suddenly interest blossomed. There are always some exceptions.

However, ordinary people go through a practice period where they like and dislike several members of the opposite sex, conducting 'romantic experiments' before reaching marriage. Through such experiences, their eyes become a bit more discerning, and they develop the ability to choose a lifelong partner, leading to marriage.

Of course, some may fail in their first marriage and think, 'I failed last time, but this time I will choose well,' and succeed in their second marriage.

In that way, experience is necessary in everything.

From the overall marriage age perspective, it can be said that very few people today can marry their first love.

(From 'The Laws of Life' open_in_new)

Experiencing heartbreak may be somewhat necessary in life.

Having gone through several heartbreaks, when the time comes to marry, if a wife comes to you, you will truly feel 'grateful.'

'I am truly grateful. How could someone like me be loved so much? I appreciate that she stays home every day without running away.'

The same goes for the wife. If the husband disliked her, it would not be strange for him to 'leave in the morning and never come back,' yet he returns every day like a carrier pigeon.

Just the fact that he comes home is something to be grateful for. When sending off the husband in the morning, it is okay to think, 'This might be the last time,' yet he returns at night. It is a grateful story.

In that sense, both men and women should have some experiences of unsuccessful romances so that they can live a life of gratitude towards each other in their future married life.

Moreover, if a couple has excessively high expectations of each other, it becomes painful for both. If the expectations are too pure and high, married life will not last long. They must understand the realities of life and lower their standards somewhat.

Romance is something that ignites, but marriage is about walking a long, ordinary, and flat path.

Therefore, as long as one yearns for thrilling experiences, marriage will not happen.

After all, one must somehow reach a kind of acceptance and gain a kind of enlightenment to live within the ordinary; otherwise, marriage is impossible.

(From 'The Laws of Life' open_in_new)

Considering various circumstances, it is indeed foolish to commit suicide just because of a broken heart.

In the following 10 years, it is almost impossible not to encounter someone else you like. It may be painful for 2 or 3 years, but I want you to endure that.

Certainly, even after 10 years, 20 years, or 30 years, the memories of being rejected by someone you once loved may remain as scars in your heart. However, that too is a material for motivation.

Work hard, become a good man or a wonderful woman, and show your ex what you are capable of. Instead of dousing yourself in gasoline and committing suicide in front of their house or jumping off a building, it is important to become a more admirable man or woman.

Alternatively, you can find someone even more wonderful. You should not despair about life at an early stage.

Being that distressed is truly a delusion.

Eventually, you will awaken from the delusion and see reality. When you awaken from the delusion, you will realize that in most cases, you were infatuated with someone who would disappoint you.

Therefore, please endure.

Committing suicide just because of a broken heart is far too simplistic.

(From 'The Laws of Life' open_in_new)

The teachings introduced in the above video are included in the following book.

From the past broadcasts of the popular radio program of Happy Science, "Angel's Morning Call" open_in_new (national network + Hawaii KZOO), we introduce programs that we want you to listen to now. (You can listen to it in audio.)

(1) "To meet your destined person" open_in_new [Episode 976]
(2) "Seeing the light in suffering" open_in_new [Episode 1099]
(3) "For you who are hurt in love" open_in_new [Episode 1272]
(4) "For you who are anxious in love" open_in_new [Episode 1317]
(5) "To nurture a wonderful love" open_in_new [Episode 1473]
(6) "To abandon love, that is also a form of love" open_in_new [Episode 1516]
(7) Guideline for the heart: "To truly love others." [Episode 1544]