A way of thinking to avoid jealousy and envy

The world of hell is a very harsh and painful place. And it is a dark place. It is certainly not a fun and bright world.

Hellish spirits come to this earthly realm to escape even a little from that suffering and attach themselves to humans who have similar tendencies, such as hatred, anger, and jealousy. During that time, they can experience the feeling of living as humans. That is their purpose for coming to the earth, possessing earthly humans, and driving people mad.

Among you, there may be some feelings of joy when seeing the misfortunes of others. I won't say there are none at all. There must be feelings of joy or relief when seeing the misfortunes or failures of others. This is actually the point of contact with hellish spirits. There are those who climb up from hell by hanging a rope ladder on this "feeling of joy when seeing the misfortunes or failures of others."

When such things possess you, at times, they can cause various diseases, at times, create disharmony in human relationships, at times, lead a company's business into a disastrous state, and at times, make you believe in a fraudulent person, leading to your own ruin. Furthermore, when evil spirits enter a household, disharmony will begin to occur within the family.

The starting point is the jealousy towards others and the heart that rejoices at the failures of others, feeling as if your own unhappiness has decreased even a little. This pathetic heart is actually what invites hellish spirits.

From Ryuho Okawa's "Awakening to the Truth" open_in_new

Humans do not feel jealousy towards everyone. Rather, they feel jealousy towards those who excel in areas they are most interested in.

For example, if you strongly wish to become a soccer player, you will feel jealousy when you see someone who is better at soccer than you. However, it is rare for someone who wants to become a soccer player to feel jealousy towards a judo player.

Similarly, if you strongly desire money, wealthy people will become objects of jealousy, and if you strongly wish to be loved by the opposite sex, feelings of jealousy will arise towards those who are loved by the opposite sex.

Thus, as a first step, you must understand that "jealousy, which is the opposite of love, is actually a mental action that tries to destroy the ideal image you wish to become, the ideal image you desire to be like."

In reality, even though you wish for realization on the surface, by feeling jealousy towards those who should be your goals, you become unable to move in that direction. This is because you tend to criticize, speak ill of, and point out the flaws of the object of your jealousy.

This is an important point. If you can honestly acknowledge that the jealousy you feel in your heart is towards someone you truly wish to become like, I would like you to suppress the feeling of jealousy and instead cultivate a heart of blessing.

A heart of blessing is a "heart of affirmation." It is a heart that wishes, "I want to be like this." A heart of blessing is a "heart that wishes for the happiness of others."

If you have that heart, you will begin to walk your life in the direction of those you are blessing.

From Ryuho Okawa's "Awakening to the Truth" open_in_new

The state of feeling jealousy is a "state of unhappiness."

Currently, happy people do not feel much jealousy towards others.

The higher your level of happiness, the less jealousy you will feel towards others.

Conversely, the stronger your sense of unhappiness, the stronger your jealousy towards others will become.

There is such a relationship.

As you succeed, jealousy diminishes.

On the contrary, if you have many failures or have some deep wounds, you will become more jealous.

From Ryuho Okawa's "How About You?" open_in_new

Konosuke Matsushita wisely said, "Jealousy must be just the right amount of fox-colored envy."

It is not good to be so envious that you become "charred black."

However, it is also not good to be completely unjealous; it is better to be "just the right amount of fox-colored envy."

This might be a kind of middle way. It may be a rare teaching, but it is about the "middle way in jealousy."

Whether it is a husband or a wife, I think there is still some jealousy or possessiveness.

Especially when one partner becomes enthusiastic about hobbies or club activities, they may become worried and want to say various things, but it is said, "Jealousy should be up to the level of fox-colored envy. If it becomes dark brown or completely black, that is going too far."

However, I also think that having "no jealousy at all" is a bit questionable.

"Feel free to do as you please. I don't care at all and have no interest, so I don't mind where you go or where you die" is almost the same as having no love.

It is best to stop at a level of jealousy that is just enough to be fox-colored and does not cause harm. If you stop there, you can avoid becoming a ghost.

However, I would like to caution you that if you become jealous to the point of being "charred black," you will become a ghost.

This applies to both husbands and children. You must not become jealous to the point of being charred black. Please keep it to a level of fox-colored envy, just lightly.

From Ryuho Okawa's "How About You?" open_in_new

Suppressing feelings of jealousy is the "wisdom of adults."

You must suppress your jealousy.

You must have the feeling of "respecting the other person as an independent individual."

This is the same in relationships between partners, such as husbands and wives, and in parent-child relationships when children grow up. There are areas where you can interfere and areas where you must leave it to the individual.

"I love you this much, so I will perfectly enclose you and not let you escape" or "I will protect you by casting a net like trawling so that sharks, rays, and other fish cannot approach"—if you hold onto your husband in such a way, he will gradually feel suffocated and become uncomfortable.

Some women become persistent and call their husband's company to check what time he came home. When the husband returns late at night and says, 'I was late because of overtime,' she will then press him, asking, 'How late did you work overtime?'

This is 'cornering' the husband, and it is not an act of love.

From the husband's perspective, if the wife were not so nagging, he could come home earlier. However, because the wife pursues him like a detective, he cannot return home.

As mature adults, there should be a degree of allowing each other freedom. We must understand that 'we both have our own privacy.'

From Ryuho Okawa's "How About You?" open_in_new

The teachings introduced in the above video are included in the following book.

From the past broadcasts of the popular radio program 'Angel's Morning Call' open_in_new (national network + Hawaii KZOO), we introduce programs that we want you to listen to now. (You can listen to it in audio)

(1) 'For Those Aiming to Be Leaders' open_in_new [Episode 1482]
(2) 'Overcoming Jealousy' open_in_new [Episode 1113]
(3) 'Stop! Jealousy' open_in_new [Episode 1167]