The inseparable "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship" starts from the tuning of ○○

The friction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often talked about, but from a spiritual perspective, the bond between them is very deep. Spiritually, there is often a bond that cannot be cut.
Usually, the mother-in-law has far more life experience and knows various things, which leads to the feeling that "I can't watch what the daughter-in-law is doing because it's too dangerous."
In such cases, there is a tendency to want to give various warnings, but the one being warned is like a new employee, so each warning hits hard, and it seems to become a spiritual conflict.
In this way, after marriage, there may be various uncomfortable feelings, but one must think, "I am undergoing spiritual training similar to being trained in the real world."
Also, there may be various people such as the father-in-law, mother-in-law, or younger sister-in-law, but each person has their good points.
As it is said, "If you associate with good points, there are no bad people," when you approach with the mindset of "let's learn the good points that each person has," it naturally becomes a learning experience, and those who are in the role of teachers will also be impressed, saying, "The daughter-in-law has quite a commendable side."
If you associate with good points, there are no bad people.

From Ryuho Okawa's book 'Tea Time' open_in_new

When human relationships start to go wrong, it is necessary to return to the origin, go back to the basics, and critically reassess oneself.
A person's value is not determined only by ability. There are broader and various elements. Usually, one tends to evaluate the other person one-dimensionally, picking up only one aspect and saying, "That's no good."
When stumbling blocks arise in human relationships, stop nitpicking, acknowledge the other person's strengths, and have the feeling of wanting to praise them. If you cannot say it out loud, think it in your heart.
Then, the other person will also start doing something similar at about the same time.
This is so mysteriously in sync that it is worth trying. It will definitely happen.
When speaking ill of the other person, it is often a hidden boast of one's own abilities. In the end, it is a boast of "I can do this much," in a hidden form.
That is the cause of clashes with others, so set that aside and have a generous heart to "look a little more at the good points of the other person."
When speaking ill of the other person, it is often a boast of one's own abilities.

From Ryuho Okawa's book 'Tea Time' open_in_new

When a family dispute arises, the first thing to consider is to "start with tuning the words."
Do not use words that hurt others, judge others, or truly crush the other person and bring them to the depths of despair.
If you feel like harsh words are about to come out, take a deep breath. Count in your heart, one, two, three, four, five, six... If you count to ten, you can avoid saying those words.
Once the words are spoken, they become living things and start to move. They work. Through the ears, they enter the other person's mind and heart, evoking hatred from them as well. Then, even harsher words will come from the other person. As a result, it becomes a back-and-forth exchange, creating a bloody battlefield.
First, please keep the initial barrier of "I will not let out negative dark words that hurt the other person."
The important thing is not to create clouds in your heart, not to consume poison.
There may be bad points on the other person's side, but there is no need to plant and amplify that evil within yourself.
If harsh words are about to come out, take a deep breath and try counting.

From Ryuho Okawa's book 'Tea Time' open_in_new

I do not intend to ask you for anything too difficult. What I want for you is to "always be a kind person."
Even when you are buried in work or suffering at home, I want you to remember these words: "Always be a kind person."
You will eventually leave this world. In a few years or a few decades, you will definitely leave this world.
Do you understand the feeling of leaving this world?
It feels just like leaving the earth and becoming a star in the sky. You feel like you are far away from the earth and becoming one of the stars.
As you rise higher and higher, hundreds or thousands of meters above the earth, this planet starts to look small.
The square where you once played, the house you lived in, friends, and various people's memories fade away into the distance, becoming smaller and smaller.
Forests, rivers, and mountains also start to look hazy.
At such times, what you will think is, "Ah, I wish I had been kinder to more people."
I predict that such moments will surely come to you.
At that time, you will think, "How wonderful it would have been if I could give more love to the nostalgic people, if I could give more kind words."
"Always be a kind person"—when you live while repeating that phrase in your heart, you are picturing the moment you leave this world in your mind.
Humans are conceived in their mother's womb, born into this world, and live for several decades. During that time, they experience various dramas and eventually leave this world and return.
The world of the earth is a fleeting memory. Like that school trip, like that enjoyable school life, it is a fleeting memory and a momentary fairy tale.
You are living such a fleeting life on earth.
So why live such a tense life? Why live such a harsh life? Why treat others so harshly?
If it is a world that you will eventually leave, let us leave as many kind memories as possible.
As you wish to be treated by others, let us also be kind to others.

For humans, the happiest moment is when they are treated kindly by others, isn't it? It is when they are treated kindly by others.
Then, let us also always be kind people. Just as you wish to be treated by others, let us also treat others kindly. Let us live as kind people.
To eliminate the tense feeling in this world, it is good to be overly kind to others.
Let us be kind to others as you wish to be treated.

From Ryuho Okawa's book 'Tea Time' open_in_new

The teachings introduced above are included in the following book.

From the popular radio program of Happy Science "Angel's Morning Call" open_in_new (national network + Hawaii KZOO), we introduce programs from past broadcasts that we want you to listen to now. (You can listen to it in audio)

(1) "How to heal the suffering with a partner who makes you irritated and awkward" open_in_new [Episode 1313]

(2) "Are you creating suffering with words?" open_in_new [Episode 1076]