How to get children to listen to you honestly 【Consultation】〈Hapimama Happiness Consultation Room Vol.6〉

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Honest children grow up well

I think it's easier for parents when children listen honestly to everything. However, before considering what is easy or inconvenient for parents, children who can listen honestly tend to grow up well and absorb their studies smoothly when they go to school.

Regardless of whether they are good at studying or not, honest children first think, "I see! Let's try it."

Before they reach the age of entering elementary school, I want to help them bloom their "honest heart".

Characteristics of adults that make children want to listen

What is needed for that is "effort on the part of adults."

Children are honest and there are adults they want to listen to honestly and those they do not.

Adults who want to be listened to honestly are "people who do not give various instructions but first look closely at themselves." And "people who discover and praise their own unnoticed individuality and strengths."

Furthermore, when they reach around 3 years old, "people who teach right and wrong properly without being emotional when they do something wrong." Such people can be trusted even from an adult's perspective.

If a child can determine that "this adult can be trusted," I believe that child will start to listen to that adult.

Disciplining with rational rules rather than emotions

However,Adults who get irritated and scold emotionally, or who stop looking at the child and say, "That's enough, hmph," or who indulge or scold in a disorderly manner based on their emotions are frightening for children.

When there are no rational rules on the adult's side, children read the adult's "emotions."

They either become timid, sensing the adult's emotions, or they think the adult is untrustworthy and stop listening from the start.

I think this is where adults need to put in effort.

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