About children with Asperger's syndrome 【Consultation】

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About children with Asperger's syndrome

I want my child to heal their wounded self-esteem

I think it's indeed dangerous and serious for him to leave school midway and come home. However, even if I try to stop him by explaining, "You can't leave school for this reason" or "Your friends are not bullying you; they want to be friends," I don't think he will be convinced.

From the outside, it may not seem like a big trouble, and one might want to say, "Everyone didn't mean it that way" if they understand the true intentions of the person who spoke. However, your child doesn't necessarily want you to mediate their relationships with friends or teachers.

Therefore, trying to suppress the outward behavior or giving advice to mediate between friends and teachers will not be effective. What you really need to do at such times is to help them regain their confidence.

Praise the child's mental brilliance

To do this, mothers should find and praise their child's strengths and the things they love to do. I believe that if you continue this, such behaviors will gradually decrease.

The points to praise are the mental brilliance such as being "kind," "able to follow rules," and "having a strong sense of justice." Many children diagnosed with Asperger's tend to have a strong sense of justice, and they may not tolerate minor issues, which can lead to trouble, but they are not trying to cause trouble on purpose.

They have an extremely strong sense of justice, and when something happens that doesn't fit into that, they can't forgive it and just say it. Many children have their original motivation rooted in this, so it's good to praise that wonderful heart.

Words that restore a wounded self-esteem are effective

Also, when your child helps out at home, saying things like, "That really helped me," "I'm happy that you did this, [Child's Name]," or "Did you do this because you thought I was in trouble? Thank you," can be effective in gradually restoring their wounded or crumbling self-esteem.

If you only try to deal with the behaviors that are happening and provide superficial solutions, as long as the wounded self-esteem is not restored, there is a possibility that various troubles will arise again. What makes your child happiest is being praised by their mother, so I hope you can find and praise the points well.

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