There are no coincidences in the parent-child bond【Young Buddha】

Dec. 17, 2024（Last Update: June 14, 2026）

Why was I born to my current parents?

In modern times, the term "parent gacha," meaning "you can't choose your parents," is commonly used, and many people have dissatisfaction or conflicts with their parents.

However, the truth is the opposite; before being born, everyone, without exception, chooses their parents in heaven and asks them to give birth to them.

This month, we will deliver content about the "parent-child bond."

Everyone is born from heaven

Humans are reborn many times in this world and the next for the growth of their souls. Before being born on earth, each person creates their life plan and is born from heaven to earth. Let's take a look at that process.

Deciding the purpose of birth and creating a life plan

To be born into this world, one must first create a life plan. They decide on their purpose for being born, their profession, etc., and once that is approved, they begin preparations for birth. Sometimes, challenges that could not be resolved in past lives are set as a page in the life problem book.

Getting permission to be born to desired parents

Before being born on earth, one chooses the person they want to be their parents by looking at their jobs, personalities, and what kind of home they will be born into. Then, they ask the parents, "Please give birth to me as your child," and obtain permission from the parents, God, and angels.

Forgetting everything and being born on earth

Once permission is obtained, they forget all memories from heaven to polish their souls from scratch. Then, they take on a capsule-like form and reside in their mother's womb at the ninth week of pregnancy.

Connected by deep bonds! Patterns of becoming parent and child

The people who become your parents are often those with whom you had a "bond" in past lives or the afterlife. Let's look at the representative patterns of how these bonds lead to becoming parent and child.　

Pattern 1: Bonds from past lives

Parent and child in past lives

The most common pattern is when they were parent and child in past lives, accounting for about 60-70% of cases. Many people wish to be born into the same family in this life because they were happy together in their previous lives.

Siblings, friends, companions

The second most common case is when they become parent and child with someone who was a friend, sibling, or work colleague in a past life. There are patterns where acquaintances are chosen as parents.

Acquaintances from the heavenly realm

Even if they did not experience being parent and child in past lives, there are cases where people who knew each other in the heavenly realm become parent and child in this life.

Pattern 2: Desiring the abilities of parents

There are patterns where one is born into a specific family environment seeking the personality, abilities, and profession of their parents to fulfill their mission and achieve their work.

Pattern 3: Having hatred in past lives

In some cases, the current parents were enemies, siblings who hated each other, or romantic rivals in past lives. Some people choose to become parent and child in this life to resolve issues from their past lives.

[Column] The mystery of parent and child

Becoming parent and child with someone similar to oneself

One cannot be born as a child unless the parent has a certain degree of similarity in tendencies. This is called the "law of wavelength resonance," and everyone has aspects of affinity with their parents.

The planned parents may change

In modern times, where the population is overflowing and the flow of people is intense, the planned parents may not meet and marry someone else. In such cases, they choose one of the families and ask to be born.

[Experience] The "bond" and "gratitude" felt towards parents

The reasons for choosing current parents vary from person to person.
I asked readers of "Young Buddha" about the "bonds" they feel with their parents and what they have learned by being born into that family.

I discovered that I am living wrapped in love

Mr. I (Chiba Prefecture, 31 years old, caregiver)

As the eldest son of three siblings, I was forced to endure during my childhood because I was the "brother," and deep down, I had the desire to be loved by my parents.

However, this year, after taking the "Mother Reflection Training" at the Yokohama Seishinkan of Happy Science, my perspective on my parents changed. Reflecting on what my parents provided during the training, I remembered all the love I received in daily life, such as them always cooking for me and seeing me off to school. I also realized that the experiences of being scolded allowed me to think from my parents' perspective, and I understood that they were speaking from a place of love for my sake, even when they were struggling. Since realizing my parents' love, I have been able to consider things from my boss's perspective at work and have changed to be someone who can listen to advice openly.

Since taking the training, I have become able to appreciate not only my parents but also my surrounding environment and relationships, and I am deeply grateful to the Lord for providing me with learning opportunities every day.

I am grateful to my parents for showing me the path I should take in life

Mr. O (Chiba Prefecture, 19 years old, HSU first year)

I feel that I was born to my current parents because there were things I needed to learn from both my father and mother.

My father is kind and deeply faithful. He values dialogue and often talks about the importance of living with faith and the happiness of following the Lord's teachings.

My mother, on the other hand, has a broad perspective. When I was in sixth grade and said I wanted to be a politician, she taught me about the United Nations and religious issues overseas. Thanks to my mother always showing me the wider world, I feel I have gained the ability to dream big.

Now, as a student at Happy Science University (HSU), I am studying in the political and journalism course about the importance of "defending my own country." In the future, I hope to work in a job related to Japan's national defense and build a "happy world based on faith" in the field of politics, utilizing what I learned from my parents. I feel truly happy every day to have been born to this father and mother.

I found my dream and realized the reason I chose these parents

Mr. F.A (Chiba Prefecture, 21 years old, HSU short-term 2 years)

My parents are a mother who was a former nursery teacher and a father who works as a company employee. My mother has always been strict about lifestyle habits and time, so I had the image of her being "scary," and my father was rarely home due to work, and when we did talk, I only thought, "He talks too long."

However, in August, after taking the "Eternal Buddha" Koan Training, my gratitude towards my parents deepened.

While deepening my understanding of my mission during the training, I suddenly remembered the origin of my name. The name "A" carries my parents' wish for me to be a presence that can brighten those around me, and I realized that my mission lies here, which made me extremely grateful to my parents. I also realized that my mother's strict upbringing was for my straight growth, and I felt her deep love.

I couldn't thank my parents enough, and later, I conveyed that to them over the phone.

Then, my father gave me advice about life, and the stories from my father, which I had previously found difficult to relate to, suddenly resonated with me. I felt the spirit and persuasiveness in every word, and I realized that my father was indeed great.

I love teaching others, so I hope to illuminate people's hearts through education in the future. When I visited a branch of Happy Science in the Philippines in September, I found my dream of establishing an education project based on faith in every country around the world.

I believe that my mother's strictness and love, along with my father's persuasiveness, are essential qualities for me to become an educator. I felt the deep love of the Lord for providing me with such a learning environment.

Following the example of my father and mother, I want to deliver the Lord's love to the hearts of people around the world.

"Young Buddha" vol.251 There are no coincidences in the parent-child bond

■ Why was I born to my current parents?
■ We are connected by a deep bond! Patterns of becoming parent and child
■ [Experience] The "bond" and "gratitude" I feel towards my parents...etc

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This article is reprinted and edited from the monthly "Young Buddha" vol.251 (November 2024 issue)