I want time to hang out with friends 【Consultation】

In Happy Science, we view life as a "problem set" and learn the laws of the mind to achieve happiness. On this page, staff from Happy Science will answer specific problems encountered in life, such as relationship issues and troubles at work or home.

Women are prone to loneliness

As a man, it can feel suffocating to be constrained like that. Many people might be troubled by this. A little jealousy might feel "cute," but if the restrictions are too strong, it becomes suffocating.

Women tend to feel lonely, and when the person they like focuses their attention elsewhere, they may easily feel anxious, thinking, "Will I be abandoned?" or "Will they go far away?" So please understand that.

Through this experience, I hope both of you can learn the secret to a lasting relationship: "how to maintain an appropriate distance."

I would like her to understand a bit more that "expanding the circle of relationships" is "enriching life," but you should also think about the meaning of meeting friends with the intention of persuading her.

Try talking honestly to your partner

And how about conveying your honest feelings to her?

For example, you could say, "Being with you is important, but I also think it's important to build good relationships with others. It pains me to feel that you are dissatisfied. I want to enrich my relationships and have time for various self-investments too."

Maintaining a certain distance and enriching "personal time" and "time spent with others besides your partner" for the future is necessary for both of your growth and is part of becoming an adult.

Trust each other more

If I were to give advice to her, it might be necessary to consider, "Is my desire to monopolize him becoming a burden?" If there is such a tendency, it is important to understand that binding someone is not love.

President Ryuho Okawa open_in_new's book 'How About You?' open_in_new teaches that "It is important to respect the other person's personality and recognize their freedom within a certain range. You must have the feeling of 'trusting the other person.'"

There are areas where you can be involved and areas where you must leave it to the other person, so it is also necessary to allow some degree of freedom.

Building a mutually independent relationship rather than being dependent on each other is the secret to maintaining a long-term relationship.

'How About You?' also discusses women who tend to be possessive, which I think will provide many hints. If you have similar concerns, please consider reading it once.